“We are so fragile that even the most ordinary early rejection and deception can become traumatic and freeze our lively trust in ourselves. With no emotional resources, the only way to deal with our pain is to store it in the unconscious.
Then, as soon as we trust someone, a conditioned response arises. We begin to feel fear or even suspicion, rooted in actual past experience, but perhaps now having no foundation in reality.
***We imagine our doubt to be an intuition about danger, but it is actually the past being replayed in the present.***
We have opened the file called “Trust In Others,” and in it are archives of ache. That file remains open until we have a long history of tried-and-true trustworthiness from someone.” – David Richo