Forgive to Live

Truly celebrate this independence day, by claiming your freedom through forgiveness.

The real inhibitor of forgiveness is fear. Forgiveness is the gateway to freedom. ~ Reverend Lola Wright

As I contemplate spending time with relatives today, I am forced to confront my willingness for forgive. For the longest time, I have held onto my righteous anger about the mom I lost too soon who struggled to support me and my young brothers. She was distant from her family for several years and I never knew why but I suspect that the history of abuse did not start with my childhood. It was a family legacy.

Over the years, I have chosen my own family. At times, new friends who drifted in and out of my life.  Unbeknownst to them, they were sisters, brothers, aunts and uncles.  Yet, I always kept myself distant in anticipation of the inevitable disappointment of their departure. All of this because, I could not forgive, and therefore, was not free to experience true intimacy through connection.


Reverend Lola Wright often talks about forgiveness.  Here’s a bit of what she has to say on the matter:

Feeling your feelings, being happy over being right, and trusting life is “for” you are ways of being that will allow greater freedom.

And here’s the secret trick to forgiveness… You don’t do it; it is done unto you. As you allow grace to move through and hold the intention of transcending the hurt, something mystical occurs. You are freed up, and that is mission critical.

Your energy and love are needed now more than ever, so get free!

I wrote about the forgiveness practice shared with me during a Forgiveness workshop at Bodhi Spiritual Center in Chicago. My goal is to heal myself so that I can heal others. The world needs me. The world needs you. We all have something unique to offer.

budha with flowers

If you live in Chicago or are in town for just a day or two, I highly recommending visiting Bodhi Spiritual Center for a 10am service.  We are located in the Vittum theatre at 1012 N. Noble on Chicago’s Northside. It is a wonderfully unconventional and soul affirming service.  The services are also streamed live every Sunday on the Bodhi facebook page.

Feel free to reach out to me if you are interested in attending and I will welcome you with open arms. You can leave a comment here or email me at

Reverend Lola Wright | #RevLo

▫️Spiritual Director @BodhiChicago ▫️Wife, Mom, Coach, Speaker, Teacher ▫️Power + Faith + Hip-Hop

Image Credit:  Hannah Bronfman

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