I came across this article online which explored the concept of an unhealthy seductress and the empowered sensual woman. As a woman in my 40’s, I am just coming to terms with my sexuality. Due to an abusive childhood, seduction was seen as something dangerous — something to be repressed and denied. As you can imagine, it is difficult to live a balanced and whole life if you cannot fully embody your own sexual self.
Read the excerpt from this article and let me know what you think.
“This is something that I have only really explored with in the past year or so on this journey of self exploration.
For most of my life, I had absolutely no idea how to ‘flirt’. ‘Seducing’ was not a natural thing for me. Something always felt wrong, forced or manipulative. I now look back and it seemed like an abuse of the feminine power. So I had this strange relationship with how to ‘be sexy/sensual’ yet not ‘lead men on’ or give them the wrong idea. So naturally, like many women, I began to shut this part of myself down.
Now we are in this rise of the feminine movement, in which there is almost a huge pendulum swing of over sexualization, for all the repression we have faced in the years gone. Which is completely natural and healthy for the balance to restore.
But we have to ask the question, what is the difference between the unhealthy seductress and the empowered sensual feminine energy?
This is completely based upon my own observation and truth, and I encourage you to inquire into your own.
To me when I see someone in ‘seduction mode’ it is displaying a ‘taking energy’. There is no giving at all in the process, there is ulterior motive, and manipulation to get a need met as the intention. This is abuse of the feminine power at its finest. There is almost a self righteousness, of entitlement from the masculine, based upon a deep resentment towards the male species. This is completely coming from a place of fear. Inside is a scared little girl, that is crying out for attention, and seeking love, attention and validation through her new found gifts of her sexual power. This is almost a predator energy, whereby woman is just playing with men for entertainment to get a ‘fix’ for her self worth and validation.
Let me assure you also. This is not only displayed in female identified bodied beings, it is also in male bodied beings also. As we are talking ENERGY here, which is interchangeable. In fact, many men are master seductresses.
This is the shadow side of the feminine. It is what has been ruling our society for many centuries, since we lost our connection to our true feminine powers. And you know what, it is okay. This has to run its course, in order to restore the balance. If you fall into this category, (we all are guilty, even myself, for abusing our powers at some stage ), it is time to just completely forgive thyself. We are not to blame, we have hardly had healthy role models of the healthy feminine sexuality, up until this point; so we are kind of ‘winging it’ and figuring it out however our journeys are showing us examples.
For me, I have sought out a few beautiful elder women as mentors and examples of this ‘healthy feminine sensuality’ that I have been either working with or simply friends with, or following their example as a reflection. As well as really connecting to my inner wise woman archetype.
For me, this healthy feminine empowered sexuality, basically looks like the opposite of the above. Below is almost a Divine Feminine Manifesto I like to read to myself before I go to sleep or whenever I feel called:
When we tap into our natural state of being, that being bliss. We naturally radiate that out. This is, in my eyes the ultimate version of ‘sexy’ whether it is pulsating through a man or woman.”